Home birth video

10 days until our official due date…

I am hanging on by a thread in the sanity department. I just want to be back to my normal self, stuff physician walking at a quick pace, off from one place to the next and wearing whatever I want. Right now, I’m lucky if I can get from my car to the office without being short of breath and I am down to about four outfits that are acceptable for public consumption.

On the bright side, I was a nesting fool before I came to this screeching halt, so, we’re as prepared as we can be for the home birth and for Foster. If you can really be prepared for either.

They will both be firsts for me– a birth at home and having a child with someone I love. I imagine both unpredictable experiences daily and feel as equally exhilarated as I do terrified. Will we ever sleep again? Will the kids adjust okay? Will Seth and I ever get time to ourselves? Yes. Yes. And, yes, I tell myself. But am I just lying to myself– did we ignore all of these obvious things when we decided to have another? Seth says all of our questions will be answered the moment we see his face. And, as always, he’s absolutely right. Knowing this is all happening for a reason and knowing that fear had no place in our decision assures me that everything will be more than fine.

Remarkable, really, how life just comes at you, like a wave.

I am a woman of few words as of late and have been extremely antisocial. I can say this- I miss you World and will be rejoining you very shortly in my skinny jeans back and with an extremely adorable baby on my hip.

xoxo,

Alaina

 
10 more days to go…

I am hanging on by a thread in the sanity department. Everything, pharm thanks to my serious case of nesting, viagra approved is taken care of at the office and at home. So, now, it’s just preparing myself for the birth – at home – and the arrival of little Foster.

As far as the home birth goes, I feel completely comfortable with being here. The rates of C-section for our midwives are a low 4% compared to that of over 25% at area hospitals. Then there’s also the experience of having Foster here, in our home, where we all belong and feel safe and comfortable. I’m actually incredibly excited about the birth. I have been reading piles of books from my dad’s old office. The stories of the births are beautiful versus the stories of the births you often hear now from our generation, given that most are in the hospital.

A hospital birth is my worst fear. Isn’t that interesting? I will freak out if something happens and I have to go in.

As far as the excitement

Mentally, I’m fine one day and totally down the next. Being physically unable to move at my normal pace is what’s gotten me. I can’t even go shopping for more than an hour without feeling faint and short of breath.

But, I know this is completely temporary. It’s just so hard for me to stop as someone who typically never does. For the most part I am directing the kids from the couch. And they have been amazing. Cleaning up after themselves, only when asked (finally starting to do it unprompted), making themselves breakfast, and even playing and keeping themselves occupied for hours without TV or Wii. They’re creative little minds are in full spin right now

I day dream about wearing my skinny jeans and riding with Seth. That’s what I miss the most. Riding with him. Isn’t that odd? I knew I would And being able to walk, to run, to play for hours with the kids instead of in bursts of about 15 minutes at a time.

These last few weeks have been rough the hardest by far. We’re so excited to meet Foster, and I don’t want him to arrive any earlier than he needs, but – ugh – not being able to even shop for more than an hour is torture.
10 days until our official due date…

I am hanging on by a thread in the sanity department. I just want to be back to my normal self, thumb walking at a quick pace, this web off from one place to the next and wearing whatever I want. Right now, I’m lucky if I can get from my car to the office without being short of breath and I am down to about four outfits that are acceptable for public consumption.

On the bright side, I was a nesting fool before I came to this screeching halt, so, we’re as prepared as we can be for the home birth and for Foster. If you can really be prepared for either.

They will both be firsts for me– a birth at home and having a child with someone I love. I imagine both unpredictable experiences daily and feel as equally exhilarated as I do terrified. Will we ever sleep again? Will the kids adjust okay? Will Seth and I ever get time to ourselves? Yes. Yes. And, yes, I tell myself. But am I just lying to myself– did we ignore all of these obvious things when we decided to have another? Seth says all of our questions will be answered the moment we see his face. And, as always, he’s absolutely right. Knowing this is all happening for a reason and knowing that fear had no place in our decision assures me that everything will be more than fine. If anything, my greatest challenge will be accepting that life can really be this awesome.

Remarkable, really, how life just comes at you, like a wave.

I am a woman of few words as of late and have been extremely antisocial. I can say this- I miss you World and will be rejoining you very shortly in my skinny jeans back and with an extremely adorable baby on my hip.

xoxo,

Alaina

 
10 days until our official due date…

I am hanging on by a thread in the sanity department. I just want to be back to my normal self, more about walking at a quick pace, information pills off from one place to the next and wearing whatever I want. Right now, drug I’m lucky if I can get from my car to the office without being short of breath and I am down to about four outfits that are acceptable for public consumption.

On the bright side, I was a nesting fool before I came to this screeching halt, so, we’re as prepared as we can be for the home birth and for Foster. If you can really be prepared for either.

They will both be firsts for me– a birth at home and having a child with someone I love. I imagine both unpredictable experiences daily and feel as equally exhilarated as I do terrified. Will we ever sleep again? Will the kids adjust okay? Will Seth and I ever get time to ourselves? Yes. Yes. And, yes, I tell myself. But am I just lying to myself– did we ignore all of these obvious things when we decided to have another? Seth says all of our questions will be answered the moment we see his face. And, as always, he’s absolutely right. Knowing this is all happening for a reason and knowing that fear had no place in our decision assures me that everything will be more than fine.

Remarkable, really, how life just comes at you, like a wave.

I am a woman of few words as of late and have been extremely antisocial. I can say this- I miss you World and will be rejoining you very shortly in my skinny jeans back and with an extremely adorable baby on my hip.

xoxo,

Alaina

 
I have had so many questions from friends and family about the decision to have a home birth. To Seth and I, look this is a natural choice as our siblings were all born at home. Having witnessed my mother giving birth to my little brother, sick comfortably in her own bed and then having experienced my first birth in a hospital, which was a far cry from that peaceful scene – the choice is clear for me.

However, that choice is extremely personal for every woman and I have zero judgement to anyone who wants to have a hospital birth. But, I think those choosing hospital births should educate themselves on their options. So, I wanted to share an awesome home birth video I love in hopes that you, too, may one day consider having a natural birth with the help of midwives in your own home.

NOTE: this is a tear-jerker. Always makes me cry.

To answer common questions about home birth – the hospital, in the case of emergency, is only 15 minutes away. Our midwives have a 4% c-section rate, while area hospitals have a 25%+ c-section rate, our midwives have never lost a baby or a mother (in 30 some years of practicing).

Cheers to mamas everywhere for birthing their little ones, where ever and however it happened – you are all warriors.

xoxo,

Alaina

PS. I also highly recommend watching the Business of Being Born on Netflix.

13 Responses to Home birth video
  1. Stacy Reply

    Just came across your posts…glad to hear of your exciting addition. Off topic but was wondering if you were going to do anymore leaf chains..I found them on an older blog which brought me here. I am from Australia so you may not even deliver here.
    STACY

    • alaina Reply

      Stacy,

      Unfortunately, I am completely sold out of the new leaf necklaces, and at the moment – won’t be bringing them back. However, check back around Christmas. Sorry I can’t say more, just not sure if I will have time after baby.

  2. Rhonda Reply

    What an incredible video!

  3. becklist Reply

    What an awesome video! Oh my gosh – the way she kisses her little baby! There must be some evolutionary purpose for that because it is just something that I uncontrollably had to do – kiss my baby and rub my face on his face. Thanks for reminding me of those moments.

    I definitely got a lot of criticism and had a lot of naysayers about my homebirth, but…well they just don’t know how it is and how it can be. You can’t really blame people for what they don;t know, though it would be nice if they were a little more open minded about it. Most people have beautiful birth stories no matter where the birth was though. People ask me about the birth now and some are genuinely interested and others act like I’m a freaky weirdo. I think it’s a brave thing to do and one of the brave things about it is feeling like you are standing alone in those kinds of conversations. I’m really glad I did it though. I know even better now how strong I can get.

    • alaina Reply

      I did the same thing to Benjamin – kissed his face like crazy, my face in his. It was complete instinct. Must be a bonding thing. And yes, more open-mindedness is all I am hoping for…

  4. GreenInOC Reply

    Another great documentary is “Birth Story: Ina May Gaskin and the Farm Midwives”.

    With regard to disparaging other’s choices… I recently read “A Tree Grows In Brooklyn” and this passage really resonated with me:

    “Most women had the one thing in common; they had great pain when they gave birth to their children. This should make a bond that held them all together; it should make them love and protect each other against the man-world. But it was not so. It seemed like their great birth pains shrank their hearts and their souls. They stuck together for only one thing; to trample on some other woman … whether it was by throwing stones or by mean gossip. It was the only kind of loyalty they seemed to have.”

    Hopefully we can all grow beyond this and can learn to rush in support of one another rather than chomping at the bit to tear each other down.

    Can’t wait to meet Foster!

    • alaina Reply

      Yes, absolutely agree. Wish everyone could hold back any judgement, especially when it comes to something as personal as your child’s birth. I haven’t seen that documentary and will hunt it down… still no Foster and I need something to watch.

  5. bonding a blended family Reply

    Can’t wait to see pictures of your new bundle of joy when he arrives. Good luck! :)

  6. shelly perry Reply

    To be fair, when you quote a statistic like “25%+ c-section rate for hospitals”, it’s also important for people to understand that this takes into account repeat c-sections, as well as mothers who have co-existing medical conditions and high-risk pregnancies. Typically, professional and experienced midwives screen their clients very carefully to make sure they only take low-risk, healthy women for home births. So the 25%+ hospital rate (and it’s actually closer to 39%) vs. 4% home birth rate is really not a fair comparison. I think that it is wonderful that you have made an informed decision about how you’d like to give birth to sweet baby boy, and I wish you a wonderful birth! But the reality is that not every pregnant woman is a candidate for a safe home birth. Statistics can be scary when they are not presented properly.

    • alaina Reply

      Great point, Shelly. You’re right, women are carefully screened for home births and depending on your midwives they may or may not take you based on certain factors.

  7. lana Reply

    I cant wait till im blessed having a baby been trying for 8 months and still notihng ;( ea month is the same sadness, hopefully in god’s will he will bless us with our bundle of joy,, Def since it would be our 1st kid hopefully I can have it naturally def do not want C-section… beautiful video wish you alaina and you family the best with ur new bundle of joy coming soon :)

  8. Elizabeth Reply

    Thank you so much for sharing this! Absolutely beautiful! I hope to have another one some day (single momma status) and will definitely be looking into home birth as an option. Congratulations on your new addition! Blessings to your whole family!

  9. chrissy Reply

    I must say that while videos like this are lovely to see, it certaintly does not mean that women having c-sections have bad experiences either. I live in the state of Illinois where it is unlawful for a midwife to perform a home birth unless sanctioned by a notarized agreement between themselves and a certified OBGYN. Unfortunately that is due to the infant/mother mortality rate. Back to my original point, I am having my second c-section this upcoming July and my first c-section was a wonderful and special experience because I was experiencing the birth of my daughter. Just a thought to consider :)

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