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Sunday cleaning

We are cleaning.

This weekend it is the basement’s turn. There are piles of toys in need of purging. Last weekend, recipe with the kids all at grandparent’s houses, visit this site Seth and I worked around the clock and made major progress on our room and the main level.

We live in a 1600 square foot house.

That is being generous and including the basement. While it was a mansion to Benjamin and I, this it is a bit of a squeeze for the five of us (and one Archer). But, thanks to Ikea, Seth’s design sense and some serious purging (two trucks full), the house feels better than it ever has.

We are impatiently awaiting Spring and its warm breezes, sandals, fire pits and back yard grilling.

Here is a shot of our redecorated living room.

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And now, I am off to the basement.

Any others have advice on blending households?

xoxo,

Alaina

Did you change your last name?

Getting divorced was scary. Starting to date again after being married for 9 years was even more terrifying. Am I still attractive? How do I even meet someone? When do I tell them I have kids? See, information pills sale it wasn’t just me anymore– I had two awesome kids to raise. Being a father (which is different than simply having produced offspring… but that’s another blog post entirely) and dating was more difficult than dating in college. Well, purchase dating and looking for a real life partner is different. Dating for fun, just for you? That’s exactly the same. And I had some fun. But not for very long. I wanted a partner, not a fling.

For the record, I was dating as a single dad… while living with my parents. It’s exactly as awkward as it sounds. Lily, Cohen, and I moved in with my parents so I could get back on my feet, financially.

So, to all you guys out there thinking about dating a single mom? Be a man. Don’t meet her kids until you’re in it for the long haul. Keep it just adults for as long as it makes sense– there’ll be more than enough kid time later.
Kids are assholes.

First, tadalafil you fucking make them. You know, give them life. Then, all they do is poop, puke, pee, poop, eat, cry, poop, sleep, cry, and poop some more.

We went to the store let the kids pick out Valentine’s Day cards for their classmates. I hate Valentine’s Day, so I went to look at sunglasses. On my walk to the back corner of the store, I observed not one, not, two, but three families with asshole kids.

Family one:

3 year old boy distracts mom while 5 year old boy climbs up the side of the cart to get to the top shelf (where the gummy bears are).

“Mommy!” nasal, whiney voice “Can we get these?”

Mom, exasperated already: “No”

“Please?”

“No”

“Can we get them? I want them.”

“No”

“I neeeeeeed them.”

“No”

Cue tantrum in 3, 2, 1…

“But MOM!” and I was out of earshot.

Family two:

13 year old girl, pushing cart, younger brothers running ahead of her. Woah!? Helping? Maybe I was wrong.

Girl: “who’s farting?!” Turns around, walks away.

Nope. I was right.

Family three (us):

 

 

Three things I chant in my head when our kids are being assholes:

1. They’re supposed to be a little selfish

2. They don’t really get what “emotions” are, how to deal with them, or why they’re even feeling them in the first place.

3. Rocky’s trainer, Mickey, was a tired, grizzled son of a bitch. But look how well Rocky did.

 

It makes it even harder, because we’re a blended family. We were families alone, before we were a family together. And each of us had our own sets of experiences and expectations. Benjamin was used to having Alaina’s undivided attention. He was used to thinking of all the toys in the house, all the food, and even the dog as his. Lily & Cohen weren’t used to having two parents in one house. They weren’t
Kids are assholes.

First, website like this you fucking make them. You know, give them life. Then, all they do is poop, puke, pee, poop, eat, cry, poop, sleep, cry, and poop some more.

We went to the store let the kids pick out Valentine’s Day cards for their classmates. I hate Valentine’s Day, so I went to look at sunglasses. On my walk to the back corner of the store, I observed not one, not, two, but three families with asshole kids.

Family one:

3 year old boy distracts mom while 5 year old boy climbs up the side of the cart to get to the top shelf (where the gummy bears are).

“Mommy!” nasal, whiney voice “Can we get these?”

Mom, exasperated already: “No”

“Please?”

“No”

“Can we get them? I want them.”

“No”

“I neeeeeeed them.”

“No”

Cue tantrum in 3, 2, 1…

“But MOM!” and I was out of earshot.

Family two:

13 year old girl, pushing cart, younger brothers running ahead of her. Woah!? Helping? Maybe I was wrong.

Girl: “who’s farting?!” Turns around, walks away.

Nope. I was right.

Family three (us):

 

 

Three things I chant in my head when our kids are being assholes:

1. They’re supposed to be a little selfish

2. They don’t really get what “emotions” are, how to deal with them, or why they’re even feeling them in the first place.

3. Rocky’s trainer, Mickey, was a tired, grizzled son of a bitch. But look how well Rocky did.

 

It makes it even harder, because we’re a blended family. We were families alone, before we were a family together. And each of us had our own sets of experiences and expectations. Benjamin was used to having Alaina’s undivided attention. He was used to thinking of all the toys in the house, all the food, and even the dog as his. Lily & Cohen weren’t used to having two parents in one house. They weren’t

After 10 months of marriage, approved I am considering changing my last name to Gray.

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There are a few reasons I have not changed my name after re-marriage:

1. I never changed my name during my first marriage. Why? Honestly, doctor after all of the green card and INS paper work I couldn’t bear the thought of more forms. And, as my long-time readers know, I realized only ten days in that my first marriage’s days were numbered. So why change my name?  Read More…

He’s making another bag.

Maker Mondays is where I’ll show you some incredible people making even more incredible things, look sickness try to explain what makes their stuff so rad, this web and why you should care.

Today, meat… errr… meet Smoking Goose Meatery. We found Smoking Goose through Green Bean Delivery, the organic & local grocery delivery service we use. Side note: Green Bean Delivery is very competitively priced, sources locally wherever possible, and is ridiculously convenient. Check them out. Back to Smoking Goose Meatery: they had me at bacon.

Smoking Goose bacon

Then I found out they have chorizo

Smoking Goose chorizo

And I’ve been missing a good chorizo & egg breakfast taco since the kids and I moved back up from Texas. This stuff is amazing.

Smoking Goose Meatery also has lamb bacon, duck prosciutto, grass-fed pastrami beef, and a bunch of other delicious meats. I had to stop listing the meats so I could wipe the drool off of my keyboard.

Here’s a nice little interview of Smoking Goose founder, Chris Eley, that should give you a little taste (puns are fun!) of what they’re all about: quality meats made from humanely raised animals.

If you’re ever in Indianapolis, be sure to check out their shop. If you’re not in Indy, check out this list and map of restaurants and retailers that carry Smoking Goose meats. So, there you have it. Who’s hungry?! I’m gonna go make some chorizo & egg breakfast tacos now.

Stay hungry,

-Seth
Maker Mondays is where I’ll show you some incredible people making even more incredible things, website try to explain what makes their stuff so rad, about it and why you should care.

Today, meat… errr… meet Smoking Goose Meatery. We found Smoking Goose through Green Bean Delivery, the organic & local grocery delivery service we use. Side note: Green Bean Delivery is very competitively priced, sources locally wherever possible, and is ridiculously convenient. Check them out. Back to Smoking Goose Meatery: they had me at bacon.

Smoking Goose bacon

Then I found out they have chorizo

Smoking Goose chorizo

And I’ve been missing a good chorizo & egg breakfast taco since the kids and I moved back up from Texas. This stuff is amazing.

Smoking Goose Meatery also has lamb bacon, duck prosciutto, grass-fed pastrami beef, and a bunch of other delicious meats. I had to stop listing the meats so I could wipe the drool off of my keyboard.

Here’s a nice little interview of Smoking Goose founder, Chris Eley, that should give you a little taste (puns are fun!) of what they’re all about: quality meats made from humanely raised animals.

If you’re ever in Indianapolis, be sure to check out their shop. If you’re not in Indy, check out this list and map of restaurants and retailers that carry Smoking Goose meats. So, there you have it. Who’s hungry?! I’m gonna go make some chorizo & egg breakfast tacos now.

Stay hungry,

-Seth
Maker Mondays is where I’ll show you some incredible people making even more incredible things, online try to explain what makes their stuff so rad, and why you should care.

Today, meat… errr… meet Smoking Goose Meatery. We found Smoking Goose through Green Bean Delivery, the organic & local grocery delivery service we use. Side note: Green Bean Delivery is very competitively priced, sources locally wherever possible, and is ridiculously convenient. Check them out. Back to Smoking Goose Meatery: they had me at bacon.

Smoking Goose bacon

Then I found out they have chorizo

Smoking Goose chorizo

And I’ve been missing a good chorizo & egg breakfast taco since the kids and I moved back up from Texas. This stuff is amazing.

Smoking Goose Meatery also has lamb bacon, duck prosciutto, grass-fed pastrami beef, and a bunch of other delicious meats. I had to stop listing the meats so I could wipe the drool off of my keyboard.

Here’s a nice little interview of Smoking Goose founder, Chris Eley, that should give you a little taste (puns are fun!) of what they’re all about: quality meats made from humanely raised animals.

If you’re ever in Indianapolis, be sure to check out their shop. If you’re not in Indy, check out this list and map of restaurants and retailers that carry Smoking Goose meats. So, there you have it. Who’s hungry?! I’m gonna go make some chorizo & egg breakfast tacos now.

Stay hungry,

-Seth
Maker Mondays is where I’ll show you some incredible people making even more incredible things, stomach try to explain what makes their stuff so rad, order and why you should care.

Today, meat… errr… meet Smoking Goose Meatery. We found Smoking Goose through Green Bean Delivery, the organic & local grocery delivery service we use. Side note: Green Bean Delivery is very competitively priced, sources locally wherever possible, and is ridiculously convenient. Check them out. Back to Smoking Goose Meatery: they had me at bacon.

Smoking Goose bacon

Then I found out they have Read More…

A truly modern family.

Achille’s Desire – Whitehorse (found via Country Fried Rock #1301)

 

“I Just Wanna” – John The Conqueror

 

“Don’t Owe You A Thang” – Gary Clark Jr.

 


I’ll keep the commentary on Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack #4 short-to-nonexistent.

Achille’s Desire – Whitehorse (found via Country Fried Rock #1301)
Another musical/romantic duo making sweet, this sweet melodies.

 

“I Just Wanna” – John The Conqueror
Raw, basement rock. The best kind. Extra credit: read about the folk hero of the same name. Awesome.

 

“Don’t Owe You A Thang” – Gary Clark Jr.
This guy is so good, it’s just not fair.

 

“Hero” – Family Of The Year
My brother, Ben, found this one. It’s got a great angsty, “I’m not who you think I am” vibe.

 

“Beelzebub” – Black Pistol Fire
I guess I was in a blues/rock/garage kinda mood this week. Anyway, I really want to see these dudes live.

I’ll keep the commentary on Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack #4 short-to-nonexistent.

Achille’s Desire – Whitehorse (found via Country Fried Rock #1301)
Another musical/romantic duo making sweet, sickness sweet melodies.

 

“I Just Wanna” – John The Conqueror
Raw, information pills basement rock. The best kind. Extra credit: read about the folk hero of the same name. Awesome.

 

“Don’t Owe You A Thang” – Gary Clark Jr.
This guy is so good, ailment it’s just not fair.

 

“Hero” – Family Of The Year
My brother, Ben, found this one. It’s got a great angsty, “I’m not who you think I am” vibe.

 

“Beelzebub” – Black Pistol Fire
I guess I was in a blues/rock/garage kinda mood this week. Anyway, I really want to see these dudes live.

Here’s to a rockin weekend!
-Seth

A note about the music: if you like what you hear, please support the artist and buy some of their shit. CDs, vinyl, shirts, live shows. Pay for something. If you see content on here that you think is violating the copyright law, please contact us and the material will be removed.
I’ll keep the commentary on Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack #4 short-to-nonexistent.

Achille’s Desire – Whitehorse (found via Country Fried Rock #1301)
Another musical/romantic duo making sweet, discount sweet melodies.

 

“I Just Wanna” – John The Conqueror
Raw, basement rock. The best kind. Extra credit: read about the folk hero of the same name. Awesome.

 

“Don’t Owe You A Thang” – Gary Clark Jr.
This guy is so good, it’s just not fair.

 

“Hero” – Family Of The Year
My brother, Ben, found this one. It’s got a great angsty, “I’m not who you think I am” vibe.

 

“Beelzebub” – Black Pistol Fire
I guess I was in a blues/rock/garage kinda mood this week. Anyway, I really want to see these dudes live.

Here’s to a rockin weekend!
-Seth

A note about the music: if you like what you hear in the Weekend Soundtrack, please support the artist and buy some of their shit. CDs, vinyl, shirts, live shows. Pay for something. If you see content on here that you think is violating the copyright law, please contact us and the material will be removed.
Benjamin has two Dads.

There’s his “real Dad” and his “Dad”– Seth.

He calls them both “Dad” or “Daddy”, more about and sometimes I have to ask for clarification, order “Do you mean your real dad or Seth?” But 99.9% of the time we know which Dad he is referring to based on the context of the sentence. One is here and one just isn’t.

What does real mean? To Benjamin it means, he is technically his father, his “real” father. That much he understands. And his real father has no protest to him calling Seth “Dad”, which is think is huge of him.

Then there are Benjamin’s “Uncles”. Not sure what label to give to my Mom’s two manpersons, Larry and Bill, I started calling them Uncles way back when Benjamin was a toddler. Read More…

Weekend Soundtrack #4

There is an incredible amount of amazing music made every day. Sometimes you have to dig for it though.

To save you the trouble of digging, cheapest sale I’ll post my 5 favorite tracks of the week here each Friday morning, medications for Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack.

In no particular order, here’s Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack #1

“Roll The Bones” by Shakey Graves
Shakey Graves is Alejandro Rose-Garcia. This badass, dirty-blues-guitar-picking, one-man-band (plays a kick drum built into a suitcase and a tambourine with his feet), hails from Austin. The video below is of Roll The Bones, but really any song by this guy is fucking rad. He’s got a couple albums recorded & for sale, and they’re good. But the real treat are the live performances. The albums are intimate and intricate. The live performance is like Johnny Cash and Jim Morrison hung out with Justin Townes Earle drinking whiskey, shooting guns, and playing guitar with the bullets. Music snob part: tempo changes, dynamics, storytelling, blazingly-tasty guitar picking.

“Trouble Around My Soul” by Tumbling Bones
Old-timey music. Might wanna play this one on Sunday morning while you’re sipping your extra-spicy Bloody Mary.

“Weather Balloons” by Sons of Fathers
When I was living in Texas, I found the most perfect, amazing place: Kent Finlay’s Songwriter Circle at Cheatham Street Warehouse. But that’s a story for another time. Anyway, I’d met Paul & David (and Regan and Dees!) plenty of times before, but they’d always just been doing their own thing. One night, Paul & David got up on stage and sang a new song they’d written together called Weather Balloons. As soon as they sang that slow, sliding harmony, everybody in the place was (more) hooked (than usual). Music snob stuff: stellar, whimsical songwriting mixed with melodies, counter melodies, and harmonies that’ll make your ears sing along even if you’re tone deaf.

“The Ancestor” by Darlingside
If you don’t tear up even a little bit when watching this video, you’re probably a robot. Like me. But, seriously, this is the most beautiful song/video I’ve heard/seen in a really long time. Music snob stuff: gorgeous harmonies, interesting melodic phrasing, and kick-ass storytelling make this song a standout.

“All I Know” by Matt The Electrician
Matt is a friend of some friends. Never met him. But, goddamn, whenever I’m mad at the world and convinced it’s populated by assholes, I play this video. And smile. Music snob stuff: an Americana & Texas Country milkshake with a healthy heap of homemade of pop sensibilities on top. So good.

 

This Weekend Soundtrack is heavy on the Texas Country. But that’s just cuz there’s so much amazing music down there! If you have suggestions for future Beauty and the Biker Weekend Soundtracks, fire away in the comments below.

 

Happy listening!

-Seth

 

A note about the music: if you like what you hear, please support the artist and buy some of their shit. CDs, vinyl, shirts, live shows. Pay for something. If you see content on here that you think is violating the copyright law, please contact us and the material will be removed.
There is an incredible amount of amazing music made every day. Sometimes you have to dig for it though.

To save you the trouble of digging, viagra I’ll post my 5 favorite tracks of the week here each Friday morning, for Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack.

In no particular order, here’s Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack #1

“Roll The Bones” by Shakey Graves
Shakey Graves is Alejandro Rose-Garcia. This badass, dirty-blues-guitar-picking, one-man-band (plays a kick drum built into a suitcase and a tambourine with his feet), hails from Austin. The video below is of Roll The Bones, but really any song by this guy is fucking rad. He’s got a couple albums recorded & for sale, and they’re good. But the real treat are the live performances. The albums are intimate and intricate. The live performance is like Johnny Cash and Jim Morrison hung out with Justin Townes Earle drinking whiskey, shooting guns, and playing guitar with the bullets. Music snob part: tempo changes, dynamics, storytelling, blazingly-tasty guitar picking.

“Trouble Around My Soul” by Tumbling Bones
Old-timey music. Might wanna play this one on Sunday morning while you’re sipping your extra-spicy Bloody Mary.

“Weather Balloons” by Sons of Fathers
When I was living in Texas, I found the most perfect, amazing place: Kent Finlay’s Songwriter Circle at Cheatham Street Warehouse. But that’s a story for another time. Anyway, I’d met Paul & David (and Regan and Dees!) plenty of times before, but they’d always just been doing their own thing. One night, Paul & David got up on stage and sang a new song they’d written together called Weather Balloons. As soon as they sang that slow, sliding harmony, everybody in the place was (more) hooked (than usual). Music snob stuff: stellar, whimsical songwriting mixed with melodies, counter melodies, and harmonies that’ll make your ears sing along even if you’re tone deaf.

“The Ancestor” by Darlingside
If you don’t tear up even a little bit when watching this video, you’re probably a robot. Like me. But, seriously, this is the most beautiful song/video I’ve heard/seen in a really long time. Music snob stuff: gorgeous harmonies, interesting melodic phrasing, and kick-ass storytelling make this song a standout.

“All I Know” by Matt The Electrician
Matt is a friend of some friends. Never met him. But, goddamn, whenever I’m mad at the world and convinced it’s populated by assholes, I play this video. And smile. Music snob stuff: an Americana & Texas Country milkshake with a healthy heap of homemade of pop sensibilities on top. So good.

 

This Weekend Soundtrack is heavy on the Texas Country. But that’s just cuz there’s so much amazing music down there! If you have suggestions for future Beauty and the Biker Weekend Soundtracks, fire away in the comments below.

 

Happy listening!

-Seth

 

A note about the music: if you like what you hear, please support the artist and buy some of their shit. CDs, vinyl, shirts, live shows. Pay for something. If you see content on here that you think is violating the copyright law, please contact us and the material will be removed.
There is an incredible amount of amazing music made every day. Sometimes you have to dig for it though.

To save you the trouble of digging, malady I’ll post my 5 favorite tracks of the week here each Friday morning, web for Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack.

In no particular order, dosage here’s Beauty and the Biker’s Weekend Soundtrack #1

“Roll The Bones” by Shakey Graves
Shakey Graves is Alejandro Rose-Garcia. This badass, dirty-blues-guitar-picking, one-man-band (plays a kick drum built into a suitcase and a tambourine with his feet), hails from Austin. The video below is of Roll The Bones, but really any song by this guy is fucking rad. He’s got a couple albums recorded & for sale, and they’re good. But the real treat are the live performances. The albums are intimate and intricate. The live performance is like Johnny Cash and Jim Morrison hung out with Justin Townes Earle drinking whiskey, shooting guns, and playing guitar with the bullets. Music snob part: tempo changes, dynamics, storytelling, blazingly-tasty guitar picking.
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